Missing Mommy? Cancer Full Moon

I was thinking tonight, under the waning Cancer Full Moon, that the theme of this week's Full Moon truly can be boiled down to one thing:

Are we projecting our Mother issues onto others around us?

As the sign of Cancer, along with the Moon, relate to that watery bond between mother and child (since Cancer and the Moon relate to the womb, stomach, breasts, milk and water) this Full Moon is a time when we project those needs onto others in our lives.

If Mother fed us with unconditional love, we continue to feed ourselves with the same emotional diet and can provide for others.

If Mother fed us conditional love, was unavailable, let us down by not meeting our needs, then we continue to seek to fulfill ourselves (or fill ourselves full) of what we are missing. We continue feeding ourselves a diet of lack or abuse ourselves in reflection (or others in retaliation) of this beginning.

We comfort eat
We cling to people or things that appear solid, stable, secure
We stay in bad relationships
We have domestic issues since we never had a secure home
We fear abandonment, starvation, lack, inconsistency, unreliability - or become known for doing this to others. (self fulfilling prophecies of our own making).
We blame others for the way we feel
We don't know the way we feel, and seek to heal others when we ourselves are wounded
We make others NEED us, since we need to be needed to fill a void
We harm others by not listening to their needs as we're too busy focusing on our own tangled emotions
We don't know what we 'need' or confuse a desire for a need and thus end up not getting what we want or need

Being out of touch with your own heart, and child energy is tough. Especially in what can appear a dog-eat-dog world these days, it's all too easy to miss the fact that we could still well be expecting others to Play Mother to our inner child.

This Full Moon asks us to re-examine our Emotional Selves - and see where we are looking after ourselves (as a Good Mom) would, and where we're abandoning or punishing ourselves (as a Bad Mom). You may be surprised at your findings.

If you're uncomfortable, you're in charge of correcting the situation. It's just good Parenting. Even if you're 52 years old and single. Self-Parenting is a must.

Emotions are very real things. Displacing them onto another in a passive aggressive manner has to end if we're to relate to each other as open, mature and honest human beings.

How do you FEEL?

Ask yourself this, time and time again, over the course of these next 2 weeks - and each time you find your response - work out if it's a comfortable feeling or uncomfortable.

Then you face a choice:

1. Make it better yourself.
2. Seek someone else to make it better
3. Complain and stay stuck.

It truly is that simple. Reach out if need be, but realize that no one else owes us peace of mind, true comfort, or a helping hand.

Those who have been well parented and feel fully secure radiate. We meet them and we just 'know'.

But perhaps the greater Lights out there are those people, who, in seeing what they experienced as a child, in the Light of adulthood, see the lack for what it is - a chance to spend the rest of their lives, filling that space inside with self-love - becoming their own Mom and Dad, by making choices that reflect the desire for a better, more comfortable, happier existence.

Happiness is a choice. And we need not spend one minute being uncomfortable emotionally, if we honestly know how we feel and we aren't afraid to show that emotion - no matter how ugly it may seem.

Honor your feelings; you honor yourself - and you're the best parent (to your own inner child, and your own flesh and blood kids, and to everyone else around you) that could ever exist.

Love,
Neil xxx