Saturday, January 10, 2009
Missing Mommy? Full Moon in Cancer (Jan 10)
Under tonight's Cancer Full Moon, It's time to remind ourselves that the theme of this current phase truly can be boiled down to one thing:
Are we projecting our Mother issues onto others around us?
As the sign of Cancer, along with the Moon, relate to that watery bond between mother and child (since Cancer and the Moon relate to the womb, stomach, breasts, milk and water) this Full Moon is a time when we project those needs onto others in our lives.
If Mother fed us with unconditional love, we continue to feed ourselves with the same emotional diet and can provide for others.
If Mother fed us conditional love, was unavailable, let us down by not meeting our needs, then we continue to seek to fulfill ourselves (or fill ourselves full) of what we are missing. We continue feeding ourselves a diet of lack or abuse ourselves in reflection (or others in retaliation) of this beginning.
We comfort eat
We cling to people or things that appear solid, stable, secure
We stay in bad relationships
We have domestic issues since we never had a secure home
We fear abandonment, starvation, lack, inconsistency, unreliability - or become known for doing this to others. (self fulfilling prophecies of our own making).
We blame others for the way we feel
We don't know the way we feel, and seek to heal others when we ourselves are wounded
We make others NEED us, since we need to be needed to fill a void
We harm others by not listening to their needs as we're too busy focusing on our own tangled emotions
We don't know what we 'need' or confuse a desire for a need and thus end up not getting what we want or need
Being out of touch with your own heart, and child energy is tough. Especially in what can appear a dog-eat-dog world these days, it's all too easy to miss the fact that we could still well be expecting others to Play Mother to our inner child.
This Full Moon asks us to re-examine our Emotional Selves - and see where we are looking after ourselves (as a Good Mom) would, and where we're abandoning or punishing ourselves (as a Bad Mom). You may be surprised at your findings.
If you're uncomfortable, you're in charge of correcting the situation. It's just good Parenting. Even if you're 52 years old and single. Self-Parenting is a must.
Emotions are very real things. Displacing them onto another in a passive aggressive manner has to end if we're to relate to each other as open, mature and honest human beings.
How do you FEEL?
Ask yourself this, time and time again, over the course of these next 2 weeks - and each time you find your response - work out if it's a comfortable feeling or uncomfortable.
Then you face a choice:
1. Make it better yourself.
2. Seek someone else to make it better
3. Complain and stay stuck.
It truly is that simple. Reach out if need be, but realize that no one else owes us peace of mind, true comfort, or a helping hand.
Those who have been well parented and feel fully secure radiate. We meet them and we just 'know'.
But perhaps the greater Lights out there are those people, who, in seeing what they experienced as a child, in the Light of adulthood, see the lack for what it is - a chance to spend the rest of their lives, filling that space inside with self-love - becoming their own Mom and Dad, by making choices that reflect the desire for a better, more comfortable, happier existence.
Happiness is a choice. And we need not spend one minute being uncomfortable emotionally, if we honestly know how we feel and we aren't afraid to show that emotion - no matter how ugly it may seem.
Honor your feelings; you honor yourself - and you're the best parent (to your own inner child, and your own flesh and blood kids, and to everyone else around you) that could ever exist.
The Comfort Zone is an interesting thing.
At the end of the day it provides us with little else but constancy - a place to feel 'safe'. It keeps us confined to a life of the 'same' because we keep within its narrow corridors and passageways.
When the Full Moon falls in Cancer (the sign of the nest, emotional safety, comfort, home and our roots) we get to do what we're never encouraged to do by society at large - leave the nest.
How will this manifest for us? That's entirely up to us of course.
You decide (or are forced)to move home to a better nest, better soil.
You leave family
You uproot and give up a place, relationship, life path you've been staying with for no good reason.
You have it out with your source of emotional support (your Mom, your family, your friends, your lover) in order to free yourself from dependency on any external sense of safety, support or comfort.
Comfort Zones are fine for protecting ourselves - but when does a home because a trap? When do we begin furnishing a rut? Are emotions causing your life to spiral out of control? Are you so needy you expect others to cater to your every desire? Are you happy and 'safe' inside your own skin?
That is the ultimate meaning of this Full Moon - let go of anything that is either defining your sense of safety and comfort, and anything that is providing too much of it. Cut free and sail off into the oceanic abyss, and let Nature take care of you.
Emotions explode now - tears, laughter, anger - if you've repressed throughout last year, it blows the lid off now. Water becomes important - look for messages in spills, bursts, flooding (there's sure to be major news story on this too as the weather reflects our emotional temperament).
It's never easy to fly the nest. After all isn't our nest a sign of what we've chosen to keep close, sustain and strengthen, provide and protect? Yes - but we're changing, and thus the nest (or our concept of it) must change too.
Any area showing a lack of comfort comes to the forefront now - if you're not comfy, change it. If your past is keeping you stuck on 'replay' mode, release it. Forgiveness becomes a bit part - don't dance with the drama source, but do forgive it and forgive yourself for any involvement.
Our Homes are interesting places. What goes on behind closed doors. Often the most together and business-like people are the ones who go home and turn into needy children, and a partner to cater to their inner child's needs (which reminds me of those businessmen you hear who like wearing diapers and being bottle-fed, paying for a form of emotional prostitution).
Who's Mothering you? Are you looking after yourself?
Is your home reflecting who you truly are or could you throw stuff away?
Do you use your past as a reference point still for what happens now?
Do you need to let go of or resolve family tension?
Can you give up security and risk growth?
And finally - look at what you claim you "need" - and see that it quite possibly may not be a need after all, but a want or a desire. Needs involve, food, water and shelter. basic requirements.
The rest is a desire. I "need" sex. I "need" a cigarette. I "need" a hug.
By all means indulge, and seek to satiate your pleasure centres, but remember that under a Cancer Full Moon, we're cut free of any apron strings we incorrectly believe we need.
Self-mother, self-love, rejoice in every emotion, and Love it All. And you'll sail through this Full Moon. The tides pull strong now - after all the Moon is Cancer's ruling planet - and a Full Moon in this sign - phew! It brings out the lunatics (lunar-tics). Observing Cancers currently around me (or those affected strongly by the lunar cycles) finds some being locked out of their home, some throwing up or throwing things away (purging full moon), some emotionally having meltdowns or Mother issues.
Howl, scream, cry, laugh, sing - FEEL your feelings, and then move through them. We are not how we feel, we are not where we live, we are not what our hearts yearn for. We are complete, whole and rediscovering ourselves again through the jigsaw pieces we encounter day by day.
Feel! That's the whole point on Earth (an anagram of Heart, remember).
Where are your e-motions (energy in motion) driving you? In circles or to a better place?
If you "need" or desire help or nurturing, I'm here for you. And I have 4th (Cancer) House Sun and Mercury in Pisces, so trust me, I'll understand.
Your Moon-Mom Maestro,
www. New World Astrology .com
P.S FULL MOON READINGS are available to help you through this period and are priced at a special rate.